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Post by Lady Amira Nuit on Oct 28, 2011 1:18:51 GMT -5
Does anyone have a bad dream almost every night? I have a past that is kind of f*cked up....BUT....I am in a wonderful relationship and away from all that hell (Kind of) well away mostly from my sibalings who were a big part of my past problem but I still having bad dreams. A lot of what I rp is how I felt and no one able to save me and wishing their was. Now I have my knight in shining armor but my nightmares still get to me. I dont know how to control them. My fiancee says to put him in my dreams but when I try I cant. It is impossble. I have had 10 bad dreams and 3 of them had felt to real to the point I woke up crying my eyes out from them. I know there has been A LOT more dreams but...this is hard. I had a bad dream like 4 nights ago about a man that creeps me out. I dont know why he popped into my dreams but like I said he does creep me out. Well today when talking to him he put a hand on my shoulder and he rubbed it just a little as it then traveled down to the middle of my back and then he pulled it off as my fiancee turned around. He is a manager of a hotel and seems to be a nice guy but he is always on the other side of the counter. A man I work with gets touchy like that and well thats a different story but still doesn't take away from my bad dreams. With my past and me thinking I am moving on my dreams aren't letting me. These men arent helping either. I told my fiancee and he doesnt like either man at all but we work with both of them so not sure what to do. I just needed to get this off my chest and I am sure I will go into more detail if asked or just a little later but any ideas on how to control a dream? Thanks!
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Post by Big Boss on Oct 28, 2011 1:36:28 GMT -5
You have to stick with your current resolve Amira. I know you can. You love your fiancee, focus on him. because if you don't and you still think aboot the bad things, they will appear in your dream. And you have this wonderful RPing place with friends that care aboot you. You can get id of this, i know you can.
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Post by elezar on Oct 28, 2011 8:47:25 GMT -5
it realy suck that you have bad dreams like that. Somthing that i think might be of help to you are, if post this on the forum has made you feel better and more relaxed, i would continue some kindof blog, diary or somthing of the kind, that you can then share with some one. I find it is at times easier to be expressive with words on paper then through speaking. another suggestion would to find a object of protection, as an example i have given my girlfriend a necklace that she hold to her with the meaining of good luck and protection. I also own a necklace and had a ring till i lost it of recently that to mean were protection and lucky. If i was worried i could hold or mess with my necklace and it would relax me. Somthing you hold dear to you that you cna hold onto through out a old day of work and when you sleep might help offer you comfort. I do hope these dreams stop for you, and that my advice my be of help.
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Post by Lady Amira Nuit on Oct 29, 2011 18:31:26 GMT -5
Thank you both a lot. I talked with my fiancee about it. It does help to write about it and to talk about it. I had the chance to talk to him about it last night and I did not have any dreams at all. I slept fine. When I talk about it I dont have any dreams. It had been while sense I had these dreams.
A family member I trusted had done things to me and a friend of my brothers and his friends had too. Started when I was 6(That is as far back as I can remember) Until I was about 12.
I have had bad dreams about 4 different men who have touched me and have 2 have told me many times they want me knowing I have a fiancee. He hates them all but he knows I can handle myself. One of these men I work with. Well I dont see him all the time thank god but 4 years ago he had kissed me out of surprised and that was leading up from him rubbing my leg and what not. I stopped talking to him after that but this year I wanted to try to put it behind me. I tryed talking with him again and he has opened up more then ever like I guess he thinks I gave him a green light or something. I told him just last week and said "Ok you are getting to awkward. I dont know what to say to you anymore or how to act. you need to stop." Before I just shut down and I think I need to again. He says he will but just his eyes still says he doesnt want to back off. The thing that set me off to tell him to stop was he began to tell me about a sex dream he had about me. Good lord I dont want to hear about that! Sigh.
I hate that I attrack those kind of men. But talking with my fiancee had helped me. He said it has been about my past. I told him I felt horrible, discusted about my dreams but he said it was the thought of not having the control. I agree with him on that. In every dream I am either tied down or held down which back then I had both happen to me. Not fun at all. So talking through it is helping and posting it here is helping too. I am an open book. I cant keep anything in because it will help me get over my fear in my dreams. So a lot of my rping I do helps too. Thank you all. Love you a lot!
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Post by Big Boss on Oct 31, 2011 9:07:23 GMT -5
Love you too Amira!.......in a sorta kinda platonic way that us friends do
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